Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Remember before falling in love…..
Love!…..o my god…its one of most powerful word of romance dictionary.its just not a word which has a simple meaning like most of the words we know in our daily life.its the most used word from our active vocabulary but most of the people define it in own way.ask someone “what you think what is love?”then you get variety of answers from different category of people.its most used and in the same time abused word.oh so you are thinking how we abuse it?you are right because at least you are thinking about my conceptions about Love.
I told abused in the sense that.people use to say lots of things like:love is waste of time and money,only love is not enough to live life happily,love can ruin your life.love is poison don’t touch it,love cant give you food and shelter to live life, etc.
In the same time you will also hear people saying that:love makes life beautiful,only lucky people get real love,everything is fare in love and war,love is divine,love is passion,love is the most key ingredient of life,lovers are made in heaven.etc
What you think who is right?what you think what is mystery about love.
So finally you are saying that both are right.i agree with you because you are not biased about the conception about love.i agree with you because you have perfect explanations for when love is divine and when it is poisonous.after going thru various conceptions and ideas about love.my conclusion is “Love is anything and everything whatever can you explain about it”any way i think Love is more platonic then sexual.it means feelings and passion with deep interest in someone’s intangible thing are more important then tangible I mean physical…I am not saying its not important I am saying it must be of secondary importance.if it is not it means lust is more heavy then love in that relationship.the magic is in affinity what you really feel in your inner heart.
Lets think something more precise and analytical perspective about love and its true meaning in our life…….
think about this statement “Love is a game of power between two people ,one who show affection first gives the total control “
wow..what a powerful statement!is it one of the psychology behind love.what you think?so you are thinking that you never thought like that about love.no problem as I told you earlier love has different explanation in different context.lets come to the above statement.i think that the game starts from the time when you felt that you are delighted by that person.just remember in same time you have given your total control to that person.your happiness ,sorrow ,mood ,is impacted and depends on the person you are delighted. Have you thought why?how it happens?don't think its not matter of mind its matter of heart.we don’t possess clarity of thought about what our heart feel.we have a great command over mind then heart.you know why because we feel pleasure when we think through our heart not mind.mind is more analytical and descriptive but heart is more creative and intuitive.we have more command and maturity on our mind because we are practiced thru our education system or contemporary life but the heart don’t beat in the same speed as mind.why it is so?do you think we are partially desibled by our feelings in our heart.no…no..its not like that.it like chrales darwin theory of evolution.according to it”the development and evolution of anything depends on the comparative use “ it directly clear that we practice thing more thru our mind then heart that’s why we don’t possess conceptual command on our heart.
Now it is very clear why we didn’t realize when we had given our total control to other body when we fall in love.now move further.
What you think you have done something wrong by giving your control to others ..never think so because if you you don’t give your control you can’t feel the person you are in love.so the first lesson we learnt that love is giving not taking but is it like that the more give the more you get?..no no…..it is madness because after giving your everything what left with you..so never give anything.now you are thing that what really I want to state..
I want to state that think before fall in love think about the person you are in love.are you really ready to confess that this is the most admired and charming person in your life you have ever seen…if not so don’t fall in love.because its just mere a mixture of attraction and infatuation..and it will die shortly.
According to Alberoni, falling in love is a rapid process of destruction-reorganization called the nascent state. In the nascent state, a state of pure creative energy, the individual loses his or her previous identity, and becomes highly fluid and capable of merging with another person to create a new "us," a unit of two that is highly charged with solidarity and eroticism. The new couple realizes their dreams, aspirations, and unexpressed potential through one another, and develops a shared life project and common view of the world. Individuals in the nascent state put one another through tests, which if successful eventually give way to a solid love relationship, and the forming of new identities and life structures formed by the merging of the two individuals.
Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can
only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE
FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE. If you keep you heart open, it will come again..